Thank you and your husband for sharing this. It feels like a generous reminder of what is more than possible. Relationships are all so unique and when there is both breathing room and love, well what a blessing!!!
I had to laugh at the synchronicity this morning. A view from one and a message from another on a dating site I keep meaning to deactivate.
One was just way too young for me! I’m no cougar but a couple of my male friends like to tease me about that. I take it as a compliment. The view was from an older man who knows how to live simply,
but he lives half a world away. And so it goes.
May there be more and more loving kindness on this beautiful earth.
I love your willingness to share whatever you choose to share.
I absolutely adored your post and I am grateful to your husband for allowing you to post it. I was thinking of my eldest daughter. She might be leaving for Drama school this September. We are very close but she is still a teenager and finding her stuff all around the house irritates me a lot. I am a Virgo sun and moon, it’s hard to go against my nature 🤪. As I read your article I thought to myself how much I will miss her and her things sprinkled around our home. It made me think that I need to be more grateful and enjoy however much time she has in our home as a child. It changed my perspective entirely. Thank you 🙏
Someone has already used the “adore” word but I don’t see why it shouldn’t be used again. That was adorable, and I do hope that my wife and I can find ourselves in the same place one day.
I very much hope so too! And I also think we may need to retrieve (and rediscover) the word adore in Western culture, in a proper grown-up sense (not an "adorable puppies" sense).
Thank you so much for sharing your love and wisdom. And thanks also to your husband for agreeing to it.
I feel the lovely reminder of couples who stay together. To be totally honest, I’m sitting with a bit of sadness now. I decided to leave my marriage - not going into that here - we did not come to that place of smiling at the little things our partners do.
20 years ago! Wow. So much time since our split. So thank you for triggering a remnant of grief that I can release.
Not all couples are meant to walk together their entires lives.
I hear you! And indeed not all relationships or couples are meant to last a human lifetime. (The human lifespan also got twice as long, since the medieval period).
May the grief released today make space for an exciting new beginning or adventure! X
SO beautiful! It almost gets me emotional. I have always been very conscious of the fragility of life and joy, so I cherish a lot of seemingly unimportant yet golden moments of connection with my loved ones very consciously when they happen. I also know nothing is set in stone, and I try not to dwell on the knowledge that one day, this will all end - as everything must. Having gone through a recent death in the family (and all the practical and emotional labour that comes with it) currently leaves me somewhat vulnerable, as if I am missing a layer of skin. It only makes me more conscious of all that I cherish in my life. Thank you for sharing this wonderful life story and I wish you and your husband many many more years of walking in each other's loving company!
I think that is best definition of "living life to the full" that I know: not chasing mega adventures but being fully present to miracles and wonders of everyday connections, surprises and synchronicities. After my father died I literally felt I had no skin for about 3 months. I withdrew from the world (as much as a mother of three young children of school age can) and people later referred to that time as my "weird period"....
I think my husband and I have pretty much come to this place, we have been together for 35 years and, as they say, a lot of water has passed under the bridge. There are things he does every day that annoy me, there are also small and great kindnesses that he does for me too and I try to do the same for him. I have "sneaked" more sticks into the garage and he has refrained from commenting! I also have a friend of many years who annoys me in many ways, we disagree and argue a lot. I recently tried to do something for her which she rejected out of hand - as is her right of course, but it annoyed me. However, she recently went through a very serious illness and more recently thought it had returned and that she really might die (it hadn't). That makes me so grateful that she is still here, and I try and remember it. After all, who would I argue with?! Blessings x
Oh I remember us talking about the sticks! And I believe some were going to have runes carved (or painted) on them?! And thank you for extended the tolerance to friendships! X
Thank you and your husband for sharing this. It feels like a generous reminder of what is more than possible. Relationships are all so unique and when there is both breathing room and love, well what a blessing!!!
I had to laugh at the synchronicity this morning. A view from one and a message from another on a dating site I keep meaning to deactivate.
One was just way too young for me! I’m no cougar but a couple of my male friends like to tease me about that. I take it as a compliment. The view was from an older man who knows how to live simply,
but he lives half a world away. And so it goes.
May there be more and more loving kindness on this beautiful earth.
I love your willingness to share whatever you choose to share.
Thank you for sharing that. It made me smile too! :-)
I absolutely adored your post and I am grateful to your husband for allowing you to post it. I was thinking of my eldest daughter. She might be leaving for Drama school this September. We are very close but she is still a teenager and finding her stuff all around the house irritates me a lot. I am a Virgo sun and moon, it’s hard to go against my nature 🤪. As I read your article I thought to myself how much I will miss her and her things sprinkled around our home. It made me think that I need to be more grateful and enjoy however much time she has in our home as a child. It changed my perspective entirely. Thank you 🙏
Ah! Aw! Thank you for reminding us all that the same thing can work equally well with our children! (And I will tell my Husband what you wrote!) ; -)
I appreciate this perspective and as a newly married woman I think this was important for me to read. Thank you!
My pleasure! As a very magical woman you and her husband will create a magical marriage every day again! X
Someone has already used the “adore” word but I don’t see why it shouldn’t be used again. That was adorable, and I do hope that my wife and I can find ourselves in the same place one day.
I very much hope so too! And I also think we may need to retrieve (and rediscover) the word adore in Western culture, in a proper grown-up sense (not an "adorable puppies" sense).
This was so beautiful it made me cry!
I don't have a partner to practise this with but somehow, I was a little less annoyed by my little demon in dog costume today... 😉
Demons in dog costumes are included, and so are children of all ages! ; -)
Dear Imelda,
Thank you so much for sharing your love and wisdom. And thanks also to your husband for agreeing to it.
I feel the lovely reminder of couples who stay together. To be totally honest, I’m sitting with a bit of sadness now. I decided to leave my marriage - not going into that here - we did not come to that place of smiling at the little things our partners do.
20 years ago! Wow. So much time since our split. So thank you for triggering a remnant of grief that I can release.
Not all couples are meant to walk together their entires lives.
Dear Wiebke,
I hear you! And indeed not all relationships or couples are meant to last a human lifetime. (The human lifespan also got twice as long, since the medieval period).
May the grief released today make space for an exciting new beginning or adventure! X
SO beautiful! It almost gets me emotional. I have always been very conscious of the fragility of life and joy, so I cherish a lot of seemingly unimportant yet golden moments of connection with my loved ones very consciously when they happen. I also know nothing is set in stone, and I try not to dwell on the knowledge that one day, this will all end - as everything must. Having gone through a recent death in the family (and all the practical and emotional labour that comes with it) currently leaves me somewhat vulnerable, as if I am missing a layer of skin. It only makes me more conscious of all that I cherish in my life. Thank you for sharing this wonderful life story and I wish you and your husband many many more years of walking in each other's loving company!
I think that is best definition of "living life to the full" that I know: not chasing mega adventures but being fully present to miracles and wonders of everyday connections, surprises and synchronicities. After my father died I literally felt I had no skin for about 3 months. I withdrew from the world (as much as a mother of three young children of school age can) and people later referred to that time as my "weird period"....
What a beautiful story to read about people who love and are happy!
My wife and me are maried almost 36 years both of us were maried before.
I regonize about the tolerance for small irritations 😉.
Yes, it takes a lot of practice! ;0)
Hi Imelda
I think my husband and I have pretty much come to this place, we have been together for 35 years and, as they say, a lot of water has passed under the bridge. There are things he does every day that annoy me, there are also small and great kindnesses that he does for me too and I try to do the same for him. I have "sneaked" more sticks into the garage and he has refrained from commenting! I also have a friend of many years who annoys me in many ways, we disagree and argue a lot. I recently tried to do something for her which she rejected out of hand - as is her right of course, but it annoyed me. However, she recently went through a very serious illness and more recently thought it had returned and that she really might die (it hadn't). That makes me so grateful that she is still here, and I try and remember it. After all, who would I argue with?! Blessings x
Oh I remember us talking about the sticks! And I believe some were going to have runes carved (or painted) on them?! And thank you for extended the tolerance to friendships! X
One of them became the runes I made with you two years ago in London 😊 And Robin cut the pieces for me, having complained about tripping over them x
Now that is called Love! X